As a student leader I was like this. I was over-committed, never said “no”, rarely slept, gained weight, and my academics suffered. I wanted to be there for everyone. As a Resident Assistant I was there for all of my residents at all hours and I was ready to talk with them about whatever whenever and for as long as they needed. My own schedule didn’t matter and what my body was telling me mattered even less.
My supervisor, Michelle, pulled me aside after my pattern had repeated itself a number times. She told me to look at my life as if it was a pie. Now, you already know I am all about some desserts (here’s my post about chocolate “magic shell”), so I was quickly on board. She said, cut your pie to where each slice represents an accurate percentage of how much time you devote to different aspects of your life weekly. Include sleep, studying, time spent with your partner, social life, time in the gym, each of the clubs you’re involved in, classes, and being a resident assistant. Needless to say, I had a lot of small pieces. After seeing my pie she then asked me a question: Is it fair to you and to others that each of these commitments only gets this small percentage of your energy and time?